Keep Kegels On Point

So, kegel exercises… they seem to assist with urinary incontinence and increase the probability and intensity of orgasms. I naturally thought that meant G-spot orgasms, but I came to discover it can also mean clitoral orgasms by some testing and reading.
Many sex therapists will notice that those struggling with a partner’s clitoral orgasm should attempt pelvic rocking and squeezing the PC muscle during sex. Apparently a certain amount of vaginal muscle tension can improve and facilitate clitoral orgasms. I never created this link with a partner on my own because I thought that I had to do the same thing with them as having orgasms on my own. That’s nothing. I’m just pressing my clit on my mood and I’m going away. No rocking, no clenching of muscles, nothing. As you can imagine, when I just couldn’t have an orgasm, this resulted to a lot of sexual frustration, no fault with my partners, previous and present.
I also realized that clitoral stimulation is a little too powerful and overwhelming for me without any kind of PC muscle tension. I feel overwhelmed when my partner directly stimulates my clit with her fingers, and sometimes it can even hurt. If, while I receive clitoral stimulation, I squeeze my PC muscles, this enables me harness that overwhelming sensation and ultimately transforms into enjoyment. For me, that’s a wonderful achievement. I had my first clitoral orgasm at a partner’s hands lately. I’ve been sexually active for 10 years now and I’m lastly achieving orgasm from my clitoris with a fully controlled partner right now. That doesn’t mean I have any problems with G-spot orgasms. I’m a pro-G spotter in fact. But with my partner, I always wanted to have mind-numbing clit orgasms.
So why do I share this? Do not write off kegel exercises or exercise equipment to anyone with powerful PC muscles (I can shoot a dildo across the room). For G-spot orgasms and urinary incontinence, I believed kegel balls were only helpful. While my PC muscles are very powerful, using kegel balls has helped me figure out how to correctly use my muscles during sex. It kind of reminded me where they are and how much heck I have to do with them.
I don’t have any particular kegel balls suggestions and what to attempt as a beginner. I’ve only tried one, Cal Exotics’ L’amour Pleasure System. Personally, I’m not pleased with them, but they helped me figure out how to concentrate on my PC muscles ‘ strength. I’m going to check them out soon.
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