1. Have you ever investigated having an open relationship?- Have you tried to have an open relationship?
Yes, I once entertained the idea of having an open, polyamorous relationship. I support polyamory, and I really wanted to explore the lifestyle as I do agree with its philosophy, but it didn’t work out with my partner at the time and we soon changed to a “closed” relationship. I haven’t tried again since and I probably won’t do it again.
2. Do you have any sexual phobias?
– What have you done to manage or overcome them?
I had a discussion about this once a long time ago with a friend of mine who is very much a kinkster and more well-versed than I with sexual phobias and the like. I have a specific sexual phobia concerning nipple injury. I’ve even had nightmares of my nipples being cut off, and I can’t directly touch my own nipples. I don’t really care to overcome it now, but I did consider getting vertical nipple piercings to try and get over it. I obviously wussed out.
3. What is the best new sexual activity you have tried in 2013?
Strap-ons! I’m very vanilla I guess.
4. Have you ever called into a sex advice radio/television show or written to a sex advice columnist?
– Was it helpful?
Yes. I wrote to Laura, a columnist and the owner of The Tool Shed. And yes, she was very helpful. She published my question and also emailed me back with more info.
5. Would you use the services of a sex therapist? Why or why not?
Yes. While I’ve been sucessful in learning how to have clit orgasms with a partner, I still struggle with having them regularly and I think it has to do with past traumas. I would like to eventually work through them and hopefully my orgasms will come easier.
6. Should sex therapists be allowed to engage in actual sexual activities with clients? Why or why not?
Hmmm, maybe. This isn’t the first time I’ve considered this question. I think with people like me who have trouble achieving orgasms regularly due to a psych block, there could be benefit in having a sex therapist present during sexual activities with a partner, perhaps to maybe talk the patient through the act. I don’t know if I would benefit from sexual activities with a sex therapist, but I do think it should be legal if it’s beneficial to others. Any little bit of help counts.
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